I’ve long felt that Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts was significant for couples, and have given a number of copies as bridal shower gifts over the years. But recently I began to think about how to apply the principles to my romance characters.
I don’t want my books to get into a rut where all the heroines are similar to each other, and all the heroes are alphas. Frankly, I’d get bored, and YOU would feel you were reading the same books over again but with different names and a few different crises. Bo-ring!
So I take into consideration things like birth order, Myers-Briggs personalities, and love languages to help me create new “people” each time.
1. Words of affirmation
2. Physical touch
3. Acts of service
5. Quality time
I don’t remember if those are the exact words Chapman uses, or what order they are in the book. It’s definitely worth reading the book to get more details on each! Really fascinating relationship studies.
If you’ve read any of my Farm Fresh Romance novels, you’ve met Rosemary Nemesek. She’s the middle-aged woman next door to Green Acres Farm, and the mother of Zach from Raspberries and Vinegar.
In the most recent release, Dandelions for Dinner Rosemary takes the heroine, Allison, aside. She can see the pain Allison is inflicting on herself and those around her, and she explains the five love languages to Allison.
It was one of those scenes that just poured out of my fingertips as I wrote. Between Rosemary and Allison, they quickly analyzed most of the farm inhabitants. If you’ve read the novel, what did you think? Did they tag everyone correctly? Are you familiar with the 5 Love Languages book?